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Third this! It's hard to progress when the self-talk gets so negative just because I get stuck on a lesson and can't seem to connect the dots as quickly as I'd like. I blame my inner perfectionist, who developed very early on when it was reinforced a lot that I was "smarter" than other kids my age just because I sometimes caught on to concepts faster - all that really led to was never really learning how to Learn when it didn't come easy. But now I'm doing a lot of inner work and trying to treat myself with compassion and take a gentler approach. It's easier to get back up after "falling" away from coding if I'm not beating myself into the ground about it.
JS enthusiast. In the middle of changing career path onto web development. Looking for challenges and opportunity to learn. Learning TS at the moment. My goal is to become back-end developer.
Hi Dorothy,
Inner perfectionist oh yeah I've been there and done that or maybe I still am :) Perfectionism is tiring. Failures are inevitable and natural. It's just something that happens to everyone. More important is what you do after them. I learned to think that every time I fail I am closer to success.
I wish you to find your way and fulfill your goals. And you're right we have to be gentle to ourselves. I am trying to think first what would I say to someone stranger if he fails at something and after that, I am asking myself why do I want to say something worse to myself.
JS enthusiast. In the middle of changing career path onto web development. Looking for challenges and opportunity to learn. Learning TS at the moment. My goal is to become back-end developer.
This bit is so me! 😄
I'm glad it not just me who feels that way!
Guess we just need to learn to go-easy on ourselves.
Third this! It's hard to progress when the self-talk gets so negative just because I get stuck on a lesson and can't seem to connect the dots as quickly as I'd like. I blame my inner perfectionist, who developed very early on when it was reinforced a lot that I was "smarter" than other kids my age just because I sometimes caught on to concepts faster - all that really led to was never really learning how to Learn when it didn't come easy. But now I'm doing a lot of inner work and trying to treat myself with compassion and take a gentler approach. It's easier to get back up after "falling" away from coding if I'm not beating myself into the ground about it.
Hi Dorothy,
Inner perfectionist oh yeah I've been there and done that or maybe I still am :) Perfectionism is tiring. Failures are inevitable and natural. It's just something that happens to everyone. More important is what you do after them. I learned to think that every time I fail I am closer to success.
I wish you to find your way and fulfill your goals. And you're right we have to be gentle to ourselves. I am trying to think first what would I say to someone stranger if he fails at something and after that, I am asking myself why do I want to say something worse to myself.
I agree. If you fail then fail forward. Every failure is a step to success. Baby steps and eyes on the goal.